Read this today and liked it:
"When the fabric of our relationships is spun of openness, love and trust, then in the silence between words the tapestry is made complete"
I like to look as relationships as 'network' or 'graph' (as in node graph) phenomena, this is why people uses metaphors like 'web' and 'tapestry' to describe them.. (but really they are multidimensional networks not 2d webs or tapestries)
parties to a relationship are nodes in the network, and a network can experience complex fluxes through itself.
So to me this is talking about a natural order of relationship rather than an imposed forced structural one. The natural network, will support and allow the flux that is present by virtue of its parties, the parties to this will be happy. The forced network is imposed by a more external powerful influence, to achieve the flux dynamic the influence is after, this wont necessarily make the parties happy as it does not respect their individual nodal contributions.
The silence between words represents the unity flux of the network.. a unique expression of the network left to flow and balance its own tune.
This can not be predicted or controlled, but it can be felt by all who take part.
So the Tao could be described as the natural network flux of all relational things past present and future
From the Tao Te Ching:
"The tao that can be told
is not the eternal Tao.
The name that can be named
is not the eternal Name.
The unnamable is the eternally real.
Naming is the origin
of all particular things.
Free from desire, you realize the mystery.
Caught in desire, you see only the manifestations.
Yet mystery and manifestations
arise from the same source.
This source is called darkness.
Darkness within darkness.
The gateway to all understanding."